An APSATS, Covenant Eyes & Pure Desire Sponsored, ONLINE, LIVE EVENT!!!!!!!!
catherine etherington
Our Keynote Speaker's Story
Catherine Writes:
There are so many tough-to-answer questions women face in the aftermath of betrayal, questions they are often afraid or ashamed to ask. It is my hope and my prayer that the work I and others in this field do will see the normalization, validation, and exploration of these questions, allowing women to journey through this season of their spiritual lives with authenticity and congruence.
As an overcomer of both my own decade-long substance addiction and of the trauma created by betrayal, I know the issues of addiction and betrayal trauma in a deeply intimate and experiential way. Now an international coach, trainer, speaker, and educator on topics related to addiction, recovery, trauma and betrayal, I have developed a passion for understanding and working with the spiritual impact of betrayal on women and working with them to journey this experience within a safe, supportive, loving and non- judgmental space.
A pioneer in the field, I created, in my role as Head of Recovery with the non profit ministry Naked Truth Project, a first of its kind online recovery program for partners of men with problematic sexual behaviors, consisting of online support groups, monthly educational webinars, and focused, topic-based groups.
The Whole Hearted Partner Programme supports women across the world in a flexible and affordable way. My work has since grown to offer partner-informed support and accountability to men seeking recovery from their PSB’s, also. Our Whole Life Recovery Programme seeks to help men grow beyond mere sobriety into full recovery, reclaiming their full potential as human beings.
Read one of Catherine’s recent articles:
https://www.covenanteyes.com/2017/09/13/helping-wives-porn-addicts-in-church/
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Dr. Barbara STeffens
Barbara's Story
Barbara Steffens, PhD, LPCC, BCC, CCPS, CPC has provided mental health counseling and
coaching in diverse settings for over thirty years. As a therapist and a coach, she
understands the breadth of support available and helpful for the women she helps.
Barbara specializes in helping women recover from sexual betrayal and is a sought-after
speaker and presenter on special issues related to partners of sexual addicts. She served as
the founding President of a The Association for Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists
(APSATS) from 2012 until she retired from that role in February of 2019. She currently
serves as faculty for Liberty University Online in their Clinical Mental Health Counseling
degree program.
Since 1999, Dr. Steffens has specialized in the area of sexual addiction and providing help
for the partners of sexual addicts. Her book Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners
Can Cope and Heal (New Horizon Press, 2009) co-authored with Marsha Means, MA, has
dramatically affected change in the lives of those who are victims, and in the professionals who
are trained to serve them. She was awarded the Carnes Award by the Society for
Advancement for Sexual Health (SASH) in 2018 for her pioneering work with partners.
Barbara has trained well over 500 people who want to specialize in helping partners heal,
has presented at numerous professional conferences, community trainings, and partner
events both in the U.S. and internationally.
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Kristin Cary
Kristin’s Story
Kristin served in campus ministry for 15 years during which time her marriage was shattered by sexual addiction and a subsequent divorce in 2006. Years of rebuilding her life and faith through partner's group, therapy and trauma work were followed by the blessing of marriage to her husband Michael in 2010. Together they co-founded Living Truth in 2013. Living Truth’s mission is to break the silence surrounding sexual struggles, offering hope for freedom and life transformation after the devastating impact of pornography, infidelity & sexual betrayal trauma.
Michael started the Men in the Battle ® network of recovery groups for men to break free from sexual addiction. Together with a fabulous team, Kristin developed Women in the Battle®...faith-based, trauma informed partner recovery groups! Because these groups for both parts of the coupleship can work in tandem, there is a greater hope for successful restoration of the family!
Men in the Battle® & Women in the Battle® groups are easily duplicatable, using a video teaching curriculum and one on one support for facilitators so groups can run anywhere in the world!
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Lyschel Burket
Lyschel’s Story
Lyschel Burket, is a wife who has weathered the trial of sexual betrayal in her marriage, like so many women. After the discovery of her husband’s pornography addiction in late 2005, Lyschel went in search of support and community. She quickly found the help she needed through a group of sisters in Christ. Over the next decade Lyschel began working on her own heart, discovering who God really says she is and recognizing His delight in her. As her affections grew for her Maker, her husband was on his own journey of recovery and healing. These years did not come without many setbacks and tear-filled nights. They have continued to stay committed to God, to each other, and to the battle against sexual sin in their marriage.
Lyschel is the Founder and Lead Hope Caster for Hope Redefined. From a place of ashes came Hope Redefined Ministries. We are familiar with the smell, fear, and sorrow that comes with this type of “fire” in a marriage. Hope Redefined hopes to be a place that walks with women as they begin to wipe the soot off and put on their war paint. There is a battle to be fought for marriages, and fighting for them is worth it.
Lyschel is a certified partner coach through APSATS, a group faciliator, ministry leader, author, and speaker. While these credentials help her support women in their own healing from betraya,l nothing impacts her work more than her own story.
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Karen Rellos
Karen's Story
Karen found herself completely shattered when her husband of 26 years walked out on her and their 6 kids on Mother’s Day weekend. She lost herself along the way from the impact of her husband’s sexual betrayal, abuse and abandonment. Completely shattered, she navigated her way through the rubble and devastation. She was left to face the pain of their dear children and the community in which they were well known. Her husband was out of their home for 2 years.
She believes God was faithful in the midst of her suffering and restored her heart to the point where she was going to be ok. whether or not her husband John, ever returned or chose recovery.Today, her passion is to walk alongside women impacted by betrayal trauma. Understanding and experiencing the journey of abuse, abandonment, lessons in boundaries, and rediscovering her worthiness have given her a passion to help others. Karen wants you to know you're not alone. She feels honored to encourage and connect with so many amazing women God sends her way, as they process through their personal journey toward redemption and wholeness.
Karen is a trained and Certified Partner Coach with APSATS.org, a Certified Christian Life Coach, a Bravehearts Certified mentor and an AASAT Partner Coach for Intimacy Anorexia. Karen is the founder of Restored Hope Coaching and the marriage ministry at redeeming-love.com. She coaches individually and facilitates weekly support groups, in person and online, including pastor's wives and a divorce support group. She is a group facilitator with Live Free Ministries for the last 4 years and a speaker at Restored and The Braveful Summit. She was a Peer Counselor with Infidelity Counseling Network (non profit for the last 4 years until they recently closed their doors).
Karen wants you to know, you aren’t alone, you’re enough, and you are so worthy. Wholeness and healing are not only possible, but God wants to turn your pain into purpose. He has a beautiful redemption story for your future, no matter the outcome of the marriage.
Karen resides in Dallas, Texas with her husband, John. They will celebrate 38 years of marriage this year. When Karen isn’t coaching, she’s playing with her 5 young grandbabies and her 4 lb fur baby, Maciee.
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Kathy Reynolds
Kathy is a Certified Professional Coach who works with partners of sex addicts and couples. She is the founder of Recalibrate Coaching and has trained under Dr. Barbara Steffens in the APSATS Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model. Kathy is skilled in facilitating women’s support groups and helping partners of addicts prepare for disclosures with their husbands. Her passion for the field of betrayal trauma healing is born from her own journey. Kathy lives in Mont Belvieu, Texas, with her husband, Conrad. Kathy will be leading an amazing breakout session regarding facing separation and divorce when a spouse is unwilling to do the work.
Tina Harris
Tina Harris is a Master Level Yoga Therapist who specializes in Trauma Yoga, Recovery and Resiliency. Tina is the author of the book Peace Beyond the Tears.
She speaks publicly at women‘s events across the country, bringing a message of hope and healing. Tina is the mother of six daughters and has been married to her husband, Tim for 30 years. Tina's passion is to equip others with the ability to recognize stress stored within their bodies and learn to release this trauma and stress through the use of movement, breathing and guided meditaion. She speaks to the fact that you are not alone and that your past does not define you nor disqualify you.
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Founders
Julie St. Onge, R.N.,BSN, Life Coach, APSATS CPC-c, C-SASI certified, Founder, The New England Betrayal Trauma Conference & New England Coaching Services LLC
Julie St. Onge, R.N.,BSN, Life Coach, APSATS CPC-c, C-SASI certified, Founder, The New England Betrayal Trauma Conference & New England Coaching Services LLC
Julie St. Onge, R.N.,BSN, Life Coach, APSATS CPC-c, C-SASI certified, Founder, The New England Betrayal Trauma Conference & New England Coaching Services LLC
Julie, a partner herself, has been married to her husband Chris for 20 years and is the mother of three beautiful children. She is an R.N. and has a passion for holistic care which addresses every part of a person's being. She has worked in Labor and Delivery, doctors offices, schools, and day camps. Julie loves nursing but feels that co
Julie, a partner herself, has been married to her husband Chris for 20 years and is the mother of three beautiful children. She is an R.N. and has a passion for holistic care which addresses every part of a person's being. She has worked in Labor and Delivery, doctors offices, schools, and day camps. Julie loves nursing but feels that coaching provides a deeper level of care, which enables others to take healthy steps in their own lives. She leads a Women in the Battle- in Derry, NH. She is C-SASI certified with A Door of Hope, and graduated from World Coach Institute as a life coach. She has attended APSATS training and is also a CPC-c. Julie founded New England Coaching Services LLC, as she has a heart for ministry to betrayed partners and to those struggling with both addiction and Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. She assesses the needs of women in a holistic manner, addressing their mental, emotional, spiritual, psychological, and physical health. . Through many hardships, she has learned that there are no quick fixes or formulas in this life, and that, more than striving for God, she simply needs to fall into His open arms and rest in Him.
"I will lead the blind by ways they have not known, along unfamiliar paths I will guide them; I will turn the darkness into light
before them and make the rough places smooth. These are the things I will do;
I will not forsake them."
Isaiah 42:16
Judee Alvarado, Founder, NE Betrayal Trauma Conference, Life Coach, Peer Facilitator, Speaker, Author, "Cinderella Deconstructed", Founder at Invisible Hurts
Julie St. Onge, R.N.,BSN, Life Coach, APSATS CPC-c, C-SASI certified, Founder, The New England Betrayal Trauma Conference & New England Coaching Services LLC
Julie St. Onge, R.N.,BSN, Life Coach, APSATS CPC-c, C-SASI certified, Founder, The New England Betrayal Trauma Conference & New England Coaching Services LLC
Judee is the proud mother of five precious children, has two lovely daughters-in-law, two beloved grandchildren, and an adorable pup named Ted. She apprenticed at The Boston Ballet, graduated from Simmons College, Boston with a degree in Communications and Spanish, married and had five children in six years, and invested in and home educa
Judee is the proud mother of five precious children, has two lovely daughters-in-law, two beloved grandchildren, and an adorable pup named Ted. She apprenticed at The Boston Ballet, graduated from Simmons College, Boston with a degree in Communications and Spanish, married and had five children in six years, and invested in and home educated her children for two decades. She founded and operated a classical ballet school, Grace & Glory School of Dance, created and produced ballet/character training videos called "Beauty From Within", which were sold in Christian Book Distributor's national catalog, taught Spanish at several private schools, founded and ran a private high school for at-risk students, and became a life coach, author, and speaker. Judee has miraculously survived devastating health crises and has tremendous compassion for those suffering trauma-induced autoimmune illnesses. Suffering from her own Complex PTSD related to domestic violence and intimate betrayal, she is passionate about helping others rise from the ashes to create beautiful, though perhaps different than hoped for, fairytale endings for their lives..
She has written a book that addresses betrayal trauma and the devastation caused by varying forms of abuse. Armed with plenty of mascara, pink lipstick, her signature pearls, and a persistent fairytale image of life, she encourages others to lean on Jesus Himself, the One Who never disappoints.
Our Kind & Classy Host for the day
Connie Spiegel, Partner Specialist for Betrayal Trauma
Certified Relationship Coach, IPEC, The Institute for Professional Excellence Trained Educator, The Gottman Seven Principles Program for Couples, B.Sc. in Art & English with a Certification in Secondary Ed. from the University of Mary Hardin Baylor.
I never aspired to be a coach for wives of sex addicts, but when I found out my husband, the father of our three children, had betrayed our marriage vows, I found myself in a
world I’d never imagined. . .I decided that I would not waste the pain: I would help other women get out from under the deep-seated shame they carry so they can create
the life they dream of living.
For years, I lived with an enormous amount of grief, pain, anger and most of all shame. After huge attempts and years of trying to save our marriage, we divorced, but deep down I knew there was a way for him to recover and for me to heal and forgive so we could be a family once more. I persistently researched sexual addiction, attended SA seminars, learned from other wives of sex addicts, and earned my coaching certification through The Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC).
Finally, we found a sex addiction counselor who was able to help us build a
new marriage, and I am humbled to be remarried to a brave man
courageously working to be who he has longed to be.
www.reconciledrelationships.com
"All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and
gave us the ministry of reconciliation." (2 Corinthians 5:18)
Honorary Member & Mentor, Donna Dixon
Donna's Ministry
ADOH Peer Facilitators: Helping Partners Move From Despair Toward Renewed Hope
The facilitator role is always demanding. Understanding the range of responsibilities, being equipped, feeling competent and confident to carry out the tasks, consistently employing the skills, while staying attuned to both individual and group members' needs, requires comprehensive training. A Door of Hope Peer Facilitator Training was designed to not only teach the skills and tools needed to facilitate partner groups, but to do so from a trauma-informed approach.
Trainees experience:
Interactive, instructional and experiential training experience to increase their confidence and competence in effectively meeting the peer facilitator role.
After completing training, by participating in a secure and moderated Facebook community, members provide and receive support as they share resources, ongoing educational opportunities, and personal experiences.